It totally sucked that only 2 people wished me a Happy Birthday on Facebook this year.
I hadn't slept much after getting off work at midnight, when I got to thinking about straightening out the mail box situation at the boys' address where I am also getting mail, so I headed out to the Post Office at about 9:30am. I also got the idea to look online to see if there was a listing of fun or free birthday stuff and ended up driving through Dutch Brothers for a free double chocolate mocha espresso. The freshman who took my order made me feel nice by repeating what I wanted to the girl who was making them and saying, "for the birthday girl!" He then decorated my straw... Look! I think that takes some talent...
By 10am I knew my birthday must not be showing up on my FB friend's calendars, but I couldn't figure out how to change that. I kept checking FB and each time, seeing nothing, got more depressed and upset.
At about 10:30, the first wishes I got were from my car insurance agent, whose secretary actually calls every year to send wishes rather than sending out cards. Then my younger son's girlfriend texted me. Later I got a call from an old homeschooling friend and we chatted for over an hour. All of these were extremely appreciated.
I got wishes from exactly 6 people total. I didn't even hear from my older son or my best friend.
I was in such an emotional and tired state by the time my younger son got away from school in the early evening, I texted and told him I didn't feel much like celebrating and called off the plans we had made. I told him I was just going to go to sleep. I was in tears and really feeling yucky. He said, "no way!" and drove to where I was and gave me a birthday hat, a party blower, a little balloon and a gift. He made me laugh, and gave me big hugs... and then I felt like a total poop being such a burden to him. What an emotional roller coaster!
We went out for sushi as planned and had a very enjoyable evening. We both seem to enjoy each other's company as people. He also told me he was going to try to be better at not being distracted when we make an actual date. He is really busy with his 3rd year business major classes this term, and his girlfriend so I am really very honored that he wants to spend tine with me, his ol' mom, at all.
Although he had been texting me during the day, he didn't say Happy Birthday... he was waiting. But I want all my special people to know that I want to hear birthday wishes first thing in the morning... I want to start the celebration with the realization that it is, indeed, a very special day!
After dinner, we shared the Ice Wine I purchased in Durango. It is a sweet dessert wine, and really, half a glass would have been plenty. We saved some for his girlfriend to try :)
I was born in 1957, and this year I turned 57. I thought it might mean something special, but wow... what a rough beginning!
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So, the following day, I get a text message on my phone from my older son in Sweden and it reads, "oh my gosh mom!! It;s the 7th!! Do you know how old you are?!?" I repsonded, "Yeah... too old!" He said he had lost control of dates. I said because I loved him, I forgave him, but that it had made me cry not to hear from him. He said he was "so sorry" :( I explained that I hadn't heard from anyone on FB either, and he was sorry to hear that too, and sorry that he had dropped the ball when I needed him.
He then thanked me for the cereal I sent him, and sent a video of him pouring milk on it and eating some. He told me he loved me, and was so glad I was his mom... *sigh* :) ...that's really all a Mom wants to hear, right? Besides Happy Birthday on her birthday, I mean!
Raisin Bran Flakes... for his 22nd birthday :)
Later in the afternoon, I got a text from CJ wishing me Belated Birthday!! and explained that her phone died on her bday. She hoped I had lots o' fun yesterday! and said, "Love you my bc xxx" But I am not sure what a 'bc' is ??? I told her it was tough not hearing from older son and her, but that younger son and I had had a nice dinner. She responded she was sorry and that "life is better with sushi."
oh so true!
:)
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